Tuesday, September 18, 2012

A Phone Call I Didn't Want

Welp.
I got a phone call last night. It was Dr. Sok the OB resident I've been seeing. I was a little surprised, but not completely because at my 32 week ultrasound when it showed the placenta didn't move, I called to ask what to do (make an appointment, what?), and she called me. This time the placenta didn't move, so it wasn't a shock to get the phone call.
She immediately went to tell me that she scheduled me for Friday morning at 9:30 am. I said, oh that's great, but I already have an appointment with you to discuss this on Friday at 8:30. She then said, "Oh no. I scheduled your c-section."
Pause...
Pause...
"Wait, what?!"
Ya. Can we say EARLY!
Still not in full comprehension mode.
She then went on to explain my placenta is 8 mm "over" my cervix. Because it is actually over the cervical os they don't want me having contractions, water breaking, "anything" to happen really. If I go into labor at all it is a huge risk of me and baby bleeding and causing bad problems. Any pressure the baby puts on the placenta can cause it to tear away from the uterus, or cause the placenta to rupture, which would be really bad for baby and me.
Ok, but my water doesn't usually "break" until about 38 weeks, so this is really so early.

Next...

Um. Friday is REALLY REALLY REALLY a bad day for us. Derek has 2 HUGE tests for the end of his surgery rotation. He is still on surgery and studying like a mad man on top of working still. Then, he starts psych next Monday and has orientation. This is NOT what we planned. Yes, we are planners! So, obviously this is a shock.

How many people in my courtyard apartment complex are due any day now? At least 4! Not including me, because I didn't think I was due any day now... So, with about 4 women wanting babies to come now, I'm begging to keep my baby in! Will she be big and strong enough to be delivered that early?! How small will she be? Can I handle a c-section with Derek starting a new rotation?

I start begging, give me the next Thursday the 27th. Just one more week. They don't want to wait longer than Monday if possible. I then tell her I really really need to talk to my husband and I'll call her back.
She was really kind and offered to talk to Derek's scheduling people and explain the situation and try for Monday. She said absolutely no later than next Wednesday Sep. 26th. She would talk to the attendings and see if they would be ok with Mon, Tue, or Wed next week and then call me back the next night.

Derek emailed the school and thankfully they have been super super kind and willing to work with us. We don't know which date it will be yet, but we are hoping for Tue or Wed of next week just so Derek can make it to orientation.

A WEEK!

I can look back and see that the sense of time running out was probably a little divine back in July and August preparing things for Elara to come. I looked at Derek last night and said, "We don't have diapers!" He just got on the computer and ordered them. I'm so glad I have been preparing early!

I am so glad I decided to get Kael and appointment with the pediatrician and flu shots scheduled for today! I wasn't going to make him an appointment, but I just did it for no reason. I decided it would be good to see the pediatrician I wanted for Elara before she came and scheduling an appointment for Kael would be good. I'm really hoping she can answer my questions about what to expect with Elara so early and have her right on board from the moment we deliver. I know this is Heavenly Father helping me because I wasn't going to make this appointment and it is just a reassurance for me to be able to talk to someone today about what to expect and to make sure she will be ok.

I feel like I'm in a tornado being blown around out of control and trying to keep my feet planted on the ground. I'm no longer worried about a c-section just kind of in shock is all. I know there is nothing I could do about where the placenta is and the risks that it entails. I am still really grateful for modern medicine. I'm grateful for Derek being by my side through all of this figuring everything out with school, family, and making sure me and Elara are 100% taken care of, and Kael and Eden as well. I can't begin to imagine what is on his plate! School, wife going to surgery, new baby coming, 2 other kids to make sure are going to be ok. It makes me glad I'm the one having surgery and not stressing all the extra stuff. He does it for me and I couldn't do this without him. He is my rock and I'm so grateful for him!

After we figured all of this out the stupid toilet broke. Really?! Really?! I even stuck my hand in that dirty thing and couldn't fix it like normal and after living in the Philippines I got good at fixing toilets.... Derek came to the rescue again and got it working.

It is my last day of waiting.

Tonight I should know.

I'm just going to end by saying, maybe just maybe Elara really wants to come early and this is her way how.
Until tonight I guess...

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